Tribute to Pankaj Chand – A True Friend, Mentor, and Guiding Light

While sorting through some papers recently, I came across this letter from you. I was reminded of it as I wrote a tribute to Mary Elizabeth Boleyn yesterday for what would have been her 40th birthday.

I want to make sure I say these things to you while we are together above ground. Rarely do we get a chance to share our thoughts and respect for another person while we are both alive.

Today, I want to take a moment to honor a remarkable individual who has been more than a friend to me – Pankaj Chand. It’s rare to find someone who resonates with your soul, who stands by you in every phase of life, and who inspires you to be the best version of yourself. Pankaj, you are that rare gem.

Your presence in my life has been a beacon of hope and wisdom. From the fun times where our spirits danced in the light of friendship, to the profound moments where you stood by me, you’ve been my rock. I remember vividly the countless times we’ve been there for each other – me bringing tapes and player to your hospital room, guiding each other through challenging personal decisions and celebrations, or simply being a phone call away in moments of need.

Your support during my business ventures has been invaluable. Who else would have brought me the first hand-held device to run my business on Excel? Or mentored me as I ventured into the complexities of forming a corporation in India? Your foresight and wisdom have always guided me towards success.

But it’s not just in business that your influence has been felt. You’ve been there in my most personal moments – from health emergencies to being a comforting presence during my daughter Mary’s transition from this life. Your empathy and care have touched not just my life but the lives of my family members.

Pankaj, your leadership and vision in business are exemplary. But more than that, it’s your human touch, your ability to connect on a deeper level, that sets you apart. You’ve been a physician, not just in the medical sense, but in healing souls and mending hearts.

Your poem and song for Molly’s and my engagement, and your instrumental role in making our wedding a celebration, are memories I cherish deeply. Your presence at these milestone moments in my life added a special touch that only you could bring.

As you once wrote to me, “You are truly one of ‘Only a Few’.” These words mirror my sentiments for you. You have left an indelible mark on my life and on the lives of those around us. The rendition of “Wind Beneath My Wings” in Winnipeg was not just a tribute from you and to you, but a testament to the profound impact you’ve had on all of us.

As we continue on our life’s journey, I look forward to more adventures, more growth, and more shared moments of joy and sorrow. You’re not just a friend; you’re a brother, a mentor, and a guiding light.

Pankaj. Here’s to you – a true embodiment of resilience, insight, and love. May the years ahead be filled with health, happiness, and the continued joy of touching lives as you have touched mine.

With all my love and respect,

Believe you can and you’re half way there. T.Roosevelt

Toastmaster Ice Breaker

Tonight I gave my first Toastmaster speech, termed, Ice Breaker for the first talk. It is to introduce yourself and gain experience for the first time.\r\n\r\nI practiced what I wanted to say for days in advance, and then the day of, I actually recorded the time required to read the two and a half pages that I had written. Trepidation set in as I realized the talk was 2-3 minutes over the 4-6 minute window for delivery. Some discomfort tried to slip into my confidence until I focused on the fact that I already knew the longer version and that it would be less stress to deliver a shorter version. I just needed to chain-saw out some verbiage. It always seems to stretch my ego to carve out words that I have so brilliantly crafted and felt were the bare essentials. How remarkable that I have that feeling often when writing and rewriting material.

The Toastmaster instruction manual relates that it is usual to return to your seat realizing that you left out critical components. That certainly applied to me. On returning to my seat, I quickly reviewed my coveted written speech. To my chagrin, I realized I had left out more than one essential paragraph. Then it dawned on me that no one else would know what I inadvertently deleted. A truism for sure.

As expected by my psyche, the evaluation was full of praise. My evaluator was a long-term member of Toastmasters. He gave me accolades, however, none that matched his closing. He exclaimed; “I am an educator and all I can say is A+. That had a profound effect on me. It gave me extreme confidence and coalesced my return to the US as a new and profound acceptance of my talents and commitments to self-improvement and success.  My new persona is nearly complete. I am now a Speaker and Author.

N21 Speaking

One of the many things that I learned well, through practice while developing a large Network Twenty-One organization, was speaking in front of large audiences. It started in small meetings and grew into larger groups. My skills were well noted by the cadre of Network Twenty-One. It wasn’t long before the organizers asked for me by name.

One Business Building Seminar was being held in Connecticut in 1999. I was excited to speak on the east coast of the States.

You can hear my talk, some life story, and some training on business development.

https://youtu.be/C5Qe-MdrLZg